Dear Prince,

 My Amor, my king, my priest, my lord, my friend,
my lover, my companion, my heart, my other half, my husband you are the archetype of a man of God.
 I praise the Lord because you are blessed, you are a man that fears the Lord and you delight in His commandments. Babe our offspring, our children, our children’s children will be mighty in the land and that generation will be blessed. I see the wealth and the riches in your house my king and your righteousness endures forever. You are a giver and the lender and are a just man, you my Prince, are blessed (Psalms 112:1-10)

When I look at you, I see God I see that He created you in His likeness (Gen 1:26) and he gave you dominion. You mighty man of valor (Judges 6:12) your boldness, courage and resilience is the fruit of
your faithfulness and  your beliefs in what God is and who He is and it is a testament and it blesses me. 
 
You are indeed a man, strong, watchful and standing firm in your
faith and everything you do is in love (1 Cor 16:13-14). You do not walk in the
counsel of the wicked therefore you are blessed my love, you delight in the law
of the Lord and you meditate on it day and night. You are firmly planted and
despite all the hats you wear, everything you have to do you do not waiver and
for that I can follow you as you follow Christ. I know that everything you do
and touch will prosper and be blessed so I command you to touch me alllll the
time ;) (Psalms 1:1-6) 
 
I am so thankful that what you teach is appropriate to sound doctrine. I’m glad
 you teach young men to be self-controlled through your actions. You are setting
 an example by doing what is good. Your teaching shows integrity, seriousness,
 and the soundness of your speech cannot be condemned because you are a man of
 integrity and those who oppose you will be ashamed because they will not have anything bad to say about you. (Titus 2:1-8)

You are a joy to have in my life and I love you! You have been an inspiration and encourager and lover. Thank you for your prayers and your kind words. Despite all that we have been through it has been a lot if not more joy than sorrow… I feel us becoming one. Although you may not believe it you are beginning to love me like Christ loves the church. I hope and pray I am the wife and woman you need and desire and what God wants for you ;) 

You and I are a team and my prayer is for us to strengthen our marriage so that we will not allow the enemy any room to try to destroy us. You are my best friend whether you like it or not!

I find myself trying to protect you and us physically, spiritually, and emotionally trying to protect our image, our integrity, how people see us but it’s both of us that need to be mindful of our actions and interactions. People are going to hate and talk bad about us but I rather them hate because of God’s blessings and favor on us and not based on our mindless behavior. 
 
I  know we are going to live a blessed life with brilliant children just like their daddy. Thanking God for EVERY moment we have had and looking forward to making lasting memories. 

I see us being a huge blessing to sooo many people. I see us living that blessed life God has for us. I see us running an empire also known as Corbett Enterprises LLC. I see children that look like us,
talk like us, goofy like us smart like us running around the house and us! I see family traditions and trips!  I see so much greatness! 

Love, love love you! 
 
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year,

Love your Wife Forever! 

Cicely Corbett

Well I was rereading the chapter in Captivating titled, "Arousing Adam" and it was so deep and I just kept hearing gentleness. For the past couple of months I have been struggling with being heard and felt like I was being taken advantage of by so many people and I thought that is was because I was so kind and gentle and so I began to try to be a bit more TOUGH and have an attitude. I began to see people's Diva-like, "Aint nobody got time for that" type attitudes and thought it was working well. I tried it and failed. I felt silly, I felt like it just did not come out as nice as I thought it would. I just wanted to be heard you know. But that was not me.

One day I was with one of my more "Urban" Girl Scout groups, a bunch of 4/5th graders and I spoke to them nicely, did not raise my voice and just was kind to them something they were not used to. But they were being so loud and doing their own thing and I began to get more stern. But then a hall monitor came in loud and putting them in "check" and they got quiet but out of fear. I asked them, "Is that how I need for you all to listen? Be loud and mean or speak to you nicely?" They said, "No, NICELY" I then realized they loved being with me because I was calm and sweet and gentle something they needed but was not used to. So I began to love on them a little bit more when they wanted hugs I gave them hugs, when they wanted to talk I let them talk and I listened.

Now ladies, we have become a loud, angry, violent type of women and it has come from so many issues that we have been through and our parents have been through that we keep trying to adapt to this crazy world. Thing about it we are to live in the world not be of it (John 15:19) that is where we are struggling because we want the world to love us because we love it. 1 John 2:15-17 says, If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride in possessions—is not from the Father but is from the world. And the world is passing away along with its desires, but whoever does the will of God abides forever.

Why can't we be a gentle woman speaking with kindness, showing love and mercy? I will let you know that the most loud, angry women heavily portrayed in the media is of black women, I see it on videos and even in real life. I am not trying to single any race out that is what I see and what the world sees and people laugh. It is so sad to me. I live in Minnesota, born and raised and seen really old married black couples and very few YOUNG married. Why is that? I went to college in Marshall, MN and saw so many young married white couples and serious relationships. I saw the black football players as just that, "PLAYERS" but they weren't with the black girls, they were with the white girls. A few black guys said they don't like all that loud attitude black girls give and I was like dang.... But oh well. Just earlier I was watching a couple videos people posted on FB of black girls LOUD AND FIGHTING... and the guys just sat around laughing.

I remember one thing my husband said while we were dating and even in marriage he needed peace in the home. Peace not meaning quiet but peace as in serene a place of retreat, a place to be revived and rejuvenated. A place where he WANTED to come home, a place to escape the madness of the world. And why shouldn't he be allowed that? I know I want it! Did you read that story at the top? How the sun won with gentleness? I am telling you, you could get a lot of what you want with being gentle.

If you are seeking to get married or need a more peaceful place at home in the marriage you have, just remember that men, the real ones, the ones that want to make YOU THE ONE, want and need a wife to be gentle. Gentle with her words and actions. Here are some scriptures to prove it:

• Proverbs 19:13 ...and the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping. (Contentions: heated disagreement, quarreling)
• Proverbs 21:9 Better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, Than in a house shared with a contentious woman.
• Proverbs 21:19 Better to live in a tent in the wild than with a cross and petulant spouse. (The Message Bible)

So if we see that being contentious, petulant, cross, quarreling etc. has the power to drive away our men then what power do we have with showing and being gentle?

• Well Proverbs 25:15 says, Through patience a ruler can be persuaded, and a gentle tongue can break a bone
• And, Proverbs 15: 1 says, A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger
• It also says that it is UNFADING BEAUTY, "Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight." 1 Peter 3:4
• It is also one of the fruits of the Spirit, Galatians 5:23.

So it can break bones, turn away wrath, is forever beautiful, and like Christ... hmmm there seems to be a lot of power.


If we are Christians that means we are to being walking like Christ, Christ said, Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. (Matt 11:29)

Be like Christ, be gentle to those around you, they need the peace, they need rest for their souls. Our men had a long, tough day at work be gentle. Our children was bullied or yelled at, be gentle. Your friends and family are going through a tough time, be gentle... Be gentle to all (2 Tim 2:24).

I dare you to practice this, you will change your atmosphere for better!

Peace and Blessings,

Cicely